Comment by 🐙 norayr
Re: "In a couple of days it will be my birthday.It’s a strange..."
i don't do birthdays and don't even notice those.
i think it starts with parents celebrating having a kid and then they try to make this a celebration for the kid as well.
in that respect, i can understand what do they celebrate: they wanted a child (hopefully, in theory) and now here it is, and they managed to keep the child alive for another year.
that's good!
when we grow up, well, we want to think we are important, we have egos, and we want confirmation from our friends that we are important to them, that we are part of the community.
romantic partners try to show how important is the partner for them and they do different things as expression of love.
however for those of us that don't have much egos, that are opposite of being narcissistic, that do not take themselves seriosly, it is a burden.
it is expected that we like it, but we don't care. and then people wonder what is not okay, or how are we damaged.
well maybe we are, maybe that made us reflect, develop and eventually, in years, understand how unimportant we are.
for me was easy to not celebrate, even when i was taking myself seriously: i was very alone and isolated for many reasons.
my friend who also was very lonely for most of his life, recently got an opportunity of a relationship. first time in his life i think, and he is older than 40, is he about 45?
so his girlfriend found out the birthday and took it seriously.
he was tired from work, he has lots of things to care about, old relatives, house loan (house is not even ready yet) so plus rent, and he works as hard as he can to earn and cover it all. he will need money to make the place livable while still paying the rent: that's a lot, i've been in that situation for years.
so he came home exhausted (i know how exhausted is he usually) and went to sleep.
then after midnight he had the ring and knock in the door, again and again, and eventually he got up and opened to see his girlfriend with cake and candle.
that was not fun at all.
it was last what he needed.
that was the moment he was so sad, though he realized she wanted to cheer him up, but she could not imagine that someone can be so indifferent to those things and needs completely different things, perhaps sharing the sadness of the existence, feeling connection, but not being overly happy about something.
so he was very close to breaking up. life taught him to not be compulsive, so he said thank you, and suggested a hot beverage.
that's a story for you from me.
Oct 12 · 2 days ago
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👻 darkghost · Oct 12 at 01:08:
Getting old is mandatory. Growing up is optional.
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In a couple of days it will be my birthday.It’s a strange day to celebrate — I’ve never really understood what there is to celebrate: birth? life? Here, in space, everything seems even more meaningless. Yet, in the end, it’s just another way to be close to those who truly matter. Perhaps we should really rethink the “traditions” of our species — or perhaps the species itself. My crew will be with me, once again, on this long journey into the unknown. — Captain tty, aboard the vessel...
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